When it slams into your house and destroys it, we’re likely to pursue one of two lines of thinking:
–How did I cause this? What choices did I make, what mistakes did I permit, why did I deserve to have this damage, or who can I blame?
–Well, that happened, now what should I do?
Looking for reasons, blaming others, or worse, blaming ourselves is a waste. It’s self-defeating. It creates shame and second-guessing, separates us from our community and distracts us from the work at hand.
Sometimes there’s a lesson to be learned, but when actual bad luck leads to a significant bolt of lightning and all the pain it causes, there is no lesson.
There’s simply what happened.
Now what?