It’s negative when we say that someone is out of control. They’ve lost their self-restraint, and they’re doing things that they’ll regret later.
And it’s honest when we acknowledge that just about everything is out of our control. We can work to influence it, we can practice accepting it, but any time we’re engaging with others or with the future, we’re not completely in charge.
Control is elusive. If we accept the parts that are out of our hands, we can focus on the elements where we have leverage and influence instead.